BUILDING THE FONDNESS AND ADMIRATION SYSTEM
WEEK 1
MONDAY THOUGHT: I am genuinely fond of my partner
TASK: List one characteristic you find endearing or lovable.
TUESDAY THOUGHT: I can easily speak of the good times in our marriage
TASK: Pick one good time and write a sentence about it.
WEDNESDAY THOUGHT: I can easily remember romantic, special times in our relationship.
TASK: Pick one such time and think about it.
THURSDAY THOUGHT: I am physically attracted to my partner.
TASK: Think of one physical attribute you like
FRIDAY THOUGHT: My partner has specific qualities that make me proud.
TASK: Write down one characteristic that makes you proud.

WEEK 2
MONDAY THOUGHT: I feel a genuine sense of “we” as opposed to “I” in this relationship.
TASK: Think of one thing that you both have in common.
TUESDAY THOUGHT: We have the same general beliefs and values.
TASK: Describe one belief you share.
WEDNESDAY THOUGHT:We have common goals.
TASK: List one such goal.
THURSDAY THOUGHT: My partner is my best friend.
TASK: What secret about you does your spouse know?
FRIDAY THOUGHT: I get lots of support in this relationship
TASK: Think of a time when your spouse was very supportive of you.

WEEK 3
MONDAY THOUGHT: My partner helps me to reduce stress.
TASK: List one time when your spouse helped you reduce stress.
TUESDAY THOUGHT: I can easily recall the first we met.
TASK: Write a sentence describing what you remember.
WEDNESDAY THOUGHT:I remember many details about deciding to get married.
TASK: Write a sentence describing what you remember.
THURSDAY THOUGHT: I can recall our engagement
TASK: Write a sentence about what you remember
FRIDAY THOUGHT: We divide up tasks in a fair way.
TASK: Describe one way you do this on a regular basis. (If you do not do your share decide on a task to take on.

WEEK 4
MONDAY THOUGHT: We are able to plan well and have a sense of control over our lives together.
TASK: Describe one thing that you both planned together.
TUESDAY THOUGHT: I am proud of this relationship.
TASK: List two things about this marriage that you are proud of.
WEDNESDAY THOUGHT: I am proud of my future spouse.
TASK: Recall a specific time you felt this pride.
THURSDAY THOUGHT: I don’t like things about my partner, but I can live with them.
TASK: What is one of these minor faults you have adapted to?
FRIDAY THOUGHT: This relationship is a lot better than most I have seen.
TASK: Think of a marriage you know that’s awful.

WEEK 5
MONDAY THOUGHT: I was really lucky to meet my partner
TASK: List one benefit that being in relationship with your partner offers.
TUESDAY THOUGHT: Marriage is sometimes a struggle but it’s worth it.
TASK: Think of one difficulty thing that you have weathered together so far.
WEDNESDAY THOUGHT: There is a lot of affection between us.
TASK: Plan a surprise gift for your partner for tonight.
THURSDAY THOUGHT: We are genuinely interested in one another.
TASK: Think of something to do or talk about that would be interesting.
FRIDAY THOUGHT: We find one another to be good companions.
TASK: Plan an outing together.

WEEK 6
MONDAY THOUGHT: There is a lot of healthy living in my relationship.
TASK: Think of a special trip you took together.
TUESDAY THOUGHT: My partner is an interesting person.
TASK: Plan something to ask your partner about that interests the both of you.
WEDNESDAY THOUGHT:We respond well to each other.
TASK: Write a letter to your partner and mail it.
THURSDAY THOUGHT: If I had to do it all over again. I would still plan to marry the same person.
TASK: Plan an engagement anniversary outing.
FRIDAY THOUGHT: There is a lot of mutual respect in my relationship.
TASK: Consider taking a class together (ballroom dancing, horseback riding, etc) Or tell your partner about a time when you recently admired something he or she did.

WEEK 7
MONDAY THOUGHT: Our time together is usually quite satisfying.
TASK: Plan a romantic evening together.
TUESDAY THOUGHT: We have come a long way together.
TASK: Think of all you have accomplished as a team.
WEDNESDAY THOUGHT:I think we can weather any storm together.
TASK: Reminisce about having made it through a hard time.
THURSDAY THOUGHT: We enjoy each other’s sense of humor.
TASK: Rend a comedy video or dvd and watch together.
FRIDAY THOUGHT: My partner is very beautiful/handsome
TASK: Get dressed up for an elegant evening together. Or plan another kind of evening out.